“Is the Problem Out There?”
“Anytime we think the problem is ‘out there,’ that thought is the problem. We empower what’s out there to control us. The change paradigm is ‘outside-in’ – what’s out there has to change before we can change. The proactive approach is to change from the inside-out: to be different, and by being different, to effect positive change in what’s out there – I can be more resourceful, I can be more diligent, I can be more creative, I can be more cooperative.” (Stephen R. Covey)
“’Life is about lessons, and it’s about learning. … it’s not about feeling bitter and resentful. It’s about moving forward,’” Fisher said. Fisher said that all too often people fall into a ‘victim mentality,’ often blaming others for their plight. While that might be natural to a degree …, it’s not the best way to move on, he said.
In times such as these, it might be easier to feel like a victim. But Fisher said Americans must remain optimistic for the betterment of their future and for the sake of the nation. He advises clients at the end of every day to ask themselves: ‘Did I live my life with truth, honor and integrity today?’
‘Failure is only an emotion, but it becomes a reality when we quit,’ he said.” (CNN Article, Erik Fisher, a psychologist and co-author of “The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict.”)
“You can’t always sit in your corner of the forest and wait for people to come to you… you have to go to them sometimes.” (Winnie the Pooh)