“Advice From Mom”
“To my babies,
Merry Christmas. I’m sorry if these letters have caught you both by surprise. There is just so much more I have to say. I know you thought I was done giving advice, but I couldn’t leave without reiterating a few things in writing. You may not relate to these things now, but someday you will. I wasn’t able to be around forever, but I hope that my words can be.
Don’t stop making basagna. Basagna is good. Wait until a day when there is no bad news, and bake a damn basagna.
- Find a balance between head and heart. Hopefully you’ve found that Lake, and you can help Kel sort it out when he gets to that point.
- Push your boundaries; that’s what they’re there for.
- I’m stealing this snippet from your favorite band, Lake. ‘Always remember there is nothing worth sharing, like the love that let us share our name.’
- Don’t take life too seriously. Punch it in the face when it needs a good hit. Laugh at it.
- And Laugh a lot. Never go a day without laughing at least once.
- Never judge others. You both know good and well how unexpected events can change who a person is. Always keep that in mind. You never know what someone else is experiencing within their own life.
- Question everything. Your love, your religion, your passions. If you don’t have questions, you’ll never find answers.
- Be accepting. Of everything. People’s differences, their similarities, their choices, their personalities. Sometimes it takes a variety to make a good collection. The same goes for people.
- Choose your battles, but don’t choose very many.
- Keep an open mind; it’s the only way new things can get in.
- And last but not least, not the tiniest bit least. Never regret.
Thank you both for giving me the best years of my life. Especially the last one.
Mom” (Colleen Hoover, Slammed)
“My mother’s last word to me clanks inside me like an iron bell that someone beats at dinnertime: love, love, love, love, love.” (Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar)